Six years

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Six year anniversary for us this weekend! It’s much more satisfying to look back on a marriage and see how far you’ve come than to look back on oneself, and wonder why you were so annoying. I get a little flustered looking back at old me–gosh she was whiny! But looking back on our early marriage years well, things have come along way. I’ve always wondered if a marriage might end because people forget what it’s like to do things by all yourself–get an unexpected bill in the mail by yourself, arrive at a new airport when all the taxis are gone, by yourself. I don’t take those things for granted and I never mean to, but I can read this article about masters of marriage and know in a split second what he means by “little bids for one another’s attention.” They happen all day long and it’s easy to decide you’ll catch up later and explain yourself. Nope. It’s a challenge for me now and I imagine it will be challenge next year too; I know what I’m up against.

We only have one tradition and it’s a bottle of Veuve. :  ) Easy, delicious, and no guess-work about reservations or the right gift. We caught the golden hour last night after lumping the girls into bed like quick-scrambled eggs and scooting up to the roof.tradition

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emma
3 years 5 months ago

happy anniversary to you!!

Erica Baker
3 years 5 months ago

Such a great article. Truly something to strive for in my marriage. Thanks so much for sharing it. Happy Anniversary!

Joe
Joe
3 years 5 months ago

From the linked Atlantic article, on the idea of ‘bids for connection':

“These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in ten of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of ten, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.”

See your bids, folks.

Ron Ringenberg
Ron Ringenberg
3 years 5 months ago

Happy Anniversary and apologies for the lateness of the good wishes

A Country Girl's Daybook
3 years 5 months ago
Connie Chung
Connie Chung
3 years 5 months ago

Happy anniversary!! I’m going to practice my bid receiving techniques early, while I’m sans husband. Also it’s refreshing to see that you guys keep it so simple when the societal pressure to up the romantic gestures never stops. Simple is good :)

Laura
3 years 5 months ago

Happy Anniversary!! I love your tradition. :)

noelle
3 years 4 months ago

A little late, but HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! That Veuve looks so good right now (nap time). Thanks too for the read. Going to thank Stephan now for never saying “That’s great, babe”.

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